"Can I Share the News That My Son Came Out?"
Question: My college-age son recently came out to me. While the news came as a surprise, I’m very supportive of him. I’d like to share this with close family and friends, but I wonder if that’s okay.
Answer: No, it’s not okay to mention it — unless you get your son’s approval. There are many degrees of outness: For instance, some teens are out to their parents, but not at school; others are out at school, to their closest friends and online, but not at home; while still others are fully out. In this case, ask your son directly if he minds your telling family and friends: “How would you like me to handle what you’ve told me?” Then, follow his suggestion.
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